How to Make the Ideal Start in an Online Relationship
Whether you are new to online dating or have been around for a while without significant success – creating the perfect start for your online relationship is vital. Diving in head first, hoping that luck will get you through is not too smart. So, what are some of the things you should pay attention to in order to have a successful start?
The first piece of advice goes for conversation starters. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking a short “Hi, how are you?” will suffice. How would you answer that question? Likely with a “Fine, thank you. How are you?” – and the conversation ends there. What you want to do is be creative – read the profile of everyone you want to write to and put together a letter based on what you found you have in common or what just fascinates you.
Secondly, if you are looking to date outside your culture, then paying attention to the cultural differences you have is vital. That is yet another thing lots of people forget to pay attention to. What are the values in distinct cultures? What religion is the person? Or are they an atheist and does that pose a problem for you?
When you have sent a letter, received a response, and you are going to use live chat – make sure that the early topics of conversation are light. Ask lots of questions – about her background, her interests, her job, and ambitions. Having found out which country she resides in, do some research about its history, customs and important news. It is an excellent way to learn something new as well as show your potential match that you have a sincere interest in her.
Also, elaborate on who you are and what are your ambitions in life. Talk about how you grew up, your favourite hobbies and plans you have for the future. When in conversation with a potential match, find out what her plans for the future are as well – does she want a family? Do they match your plans? It is vital to make it clear if you are after the same goal.
Once the online relationship has somewhat taken off, don’t start rushing. That is another impulse move a lot of online daters make – they find someone attractive, and once things are going smoothly, they want to “lock it down” and become exclusive too soon. Make sure you take a sufficient amount of time to get truly to know the other person before you get serious.