You’re A Spare Boyfriend, And You Don’t Even Know It
Most spares in our lives come in handy. For example, a spare tire will be of a big help when we ruin the previous one on a bumpy road. A spare key can be very useful when we forget where we put our main key. All of these examples are positive ones, but you know what type of spare isn’t? Being a spare boyfriend.
What Is A Spare Boyfriend And How To Tell If You Are One
A spare boyfriend is just like a spare key or a spare tire – a lady won’t need to be with her spare when her main man is by her side. Spare boyfriends may or may not know that there is the main man involved. But they stick around anyway, even if the relationship doesn’t feel right. It’s mostly the female’s doing because she leads her spare on, promising him, or even giving him love and affection.
If you don’t know whether you are a spare or not, but have doubts that you might be, these signs will be helpful for you to determine where you stand in the relationship:
Hot And Cold
Do you know that song by Katy Perry? “‘Cause you’re hot then you’re cold, You’re yes then you’re no, You’re in then you’re out, You’re up then you’re down,” and so on? Well, that’s how it feels like with your so-called girlfriend.
One day she’s being really affectionate, but on the next, she becomes ice cold and uncaring. Doesn’t that seem strange to you? Girls can get moody, but when the common pattern of your relationship is mostly this, you need to think twice about being in any kind of relationship with this woman.
She Calls You Only When She Needs You
Not calling you is a red flag. When a woman is interested in you, she’ll call or text you on the daily basis just to talk about her day, your day or something uneventful. But in this case, when she does call you, it’s always about asking for your help or asking a favour from you. You need to realize that you’re in a one-sided relationship.
Your Instincts Are Telling You That Something’s Not Right
Usually, in situations like this, you’ll be able to tell right off the bat if there’s something wrong. Listen to your gut because it’s not going to keep bugging you if everything is fine. You’ve been in relationships before, right? What makes the relationship you’re in now different? Trust your instincts. If you feel that she’s leading you on, she probably is.
It doesn’t feel good when you’re a spare boyfriend. If you spot any of the signs, you should have the courage to confront your girl and talk about how you’re going to move forward (or not). You have to value yourself in these kinds of situations and remember that there is always someone else out there. For more relationship and dating tips, don’t hesitate to check our more posts from our blog.