Why Playing Hard To Get Will Never Work

How many times have you heard other people say that playing hard to get when someone is interested in you is the way to do it? That’s a pretty common dating advice, but has it ever been effective? Look back on your personal experiences. Have you ever gotten your lady or man by following this advice?

Science Says That Playing Hard To Get Won’t Get You A Date

Playing hard to get will never work based on the norm of reciprocity. The simplest way to explain this is we like people who like us, and we dislike people who dislike us. Simple, isn’t it? But, think about it for a second. If you find out that someone is interested in you, it would, most definitely, make you feel giddy. On the other hand, if you know that one person in your office, for example, dislike you, would it be logical to say that you still like this person? Probably not.

It’s similar when you are dating. If you don’t reply to messages, or if you make excuses not to have a video chat with the person you like, how are they supposed to be motivated to keep contacting you?

What To Do Instead Of Playing Hard To Get

Since Science has ruled out that the playing coy tactic won’t work, what else can you do? First of all, let’s be clear. You don’t want to show that you are overly eager. At the same time, you don’t want to show that you’re not interested at all. The best approach would be to live your own life but have a bit of time to follow your heart.

For example, if your online date sets a video chat schedule that doesn’t work for you, don’t give in if what you’re going to do is important. However, next time, you have to find a better time for him or her to show that you’re willing to make small changes in your schedule. You want to let this person know that you are interested, but you don’t want to put your life on hold.

Hopefully, after reading this post, you’ll understand why playing hard to get isn’t effective in today’s dating scene. For more updates on dating, read more posts on our blog.