How To Protect Your Relationship From The Seven Year Itch
Most people think that the seven year itch is just a myth. Well, trust us when we say that it is a situation that’s very real. It even happens with couples who have had a really strong intimate connection at the beginning of the relationship. Is there a way to safeguard your relationship from the seven year itch?
What To Do About The Seven Year Itch
In case you didn’t know, the seven year itch is when a couple starts to drift apart after being together for seven or so years. The itch can even happen before the seven year mark. Slowly, a couple loses interest in each other and ends up finding excitement somewhere else. Either the relationship ends or one partner has an affair.
The good news is there is a way to deal with the itch. Before we go into the tips, first, you need to determine if you are, indeed, already bored with your relationship or are experiencing intimacy issues. Answer the following questions honestly:
1. Can you remember the last time you and your partner did something fun together?
2. Can you remember when you have shared your thoughts during the day with one another
3. Do you envy your friends’ single life?
4. Are your bedroom ventures becoming more of a routine?
If your answers are no, no, yes, and yes, then you might be already bored with your partner and your situation. Now, here’s what you do about it:
- Have a serious talk with your partner. Most likely, your partner may not be aware that you are already having intimacy problems in your relationship. Raise it up but make sure that you don’t use language that sounds like you’re putting the blame on him or her. Be objective and explain why you feel like you’ve lost your spark.
- Be careful with your words. You know your partner the best. You have to gauge your words so that your partner will have a positive reaction to what you’re saying.
- Fight boredom. The next thing you do is to learn how to fight boredom. This may sound strange but try taking a break from your relationship and doing something that you like. Boredom comes from your own insecurities and unhappiness so it’s best to deal with it inwardly.
- Get the spark back. Do you remember what you used to do with the love of your life? Do you remember how it used to be? Try to get your relationship into that era again by diverting from your bad habits. Try something new together, be more aware, and improve your communication skills.
It’s going to take a lot of work but if you do it right, you’ll be itch-proof in no time. Check out more articles on our blog here.